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5 things christian parents should pray over their kids daily

When I was just a little boy my mom started praying over me at night as I slept. The reason, as I recall her telling me, was because she “didn’t know what to do with me.” I had a tendency to overreact about things. I was a kind of hot-headed. I was a difficult kid to handle at times. But instead of trying to fix me, she prayed and she surrendered her parenting to God.

I’m trying to do the same thing these days. Sometimes your kids can drive you crazy, am I right? The screams, the meltdowns, the overreacting. I’ve come to realize most kids go through a season of one or more of these behaviors. We can help create a culture in our home that leads them away from this and we ought to do everything in our power to do that. But we also need to surrender our parenting to God so that He may do it on our behalf and equip us with what we need to get the job done.

Yesterday I posted a photo on Instagram that immediately got attention from a couple of old college friends. It’s a simple thing, praying for our kids as they sleep… but we also have a lot to get done while they sleep, right? But what if we all took some time each night and/or nap and prayed while they slept?

So, what should you pray about? Well, there are lots of things you could pray, but for now I’m focusing on five.

5 Things Christian Parents Should Pray Over Their Kids Daily

This is not a complete list because the list is endless. But you’ve got to figure out what are the things that are most important to you, that you want for your kids. Here are five things I’ve just started praying over my kids as they sleep. I no particular order…

  • God Protect Their Innocence
    I want my kids to maintain innocence, not only sexually, but mentally and in every other way as long as possible. So many kids grow up out of necessity, way too early and skip out on childhood. I want my kids to have a joyful and fulfilling childhood. 
  • God Change The World and Use My Kids To Do It
    Don’t we all want to be world-changers in once sense or another. I want my kids to fall in love with Jesus so madly that they’d be willing to follow his call to the ends of the earth. I want them to know personally, the mission God has for their lives and I want it to be grand. I’m not satisfied with a little mission in my life and I don’t want my kids to just fulfill some ideas of what might be the call of God on their lives. I want them to know without a shadow of a doubt that God has purpose for them and I want them to pursue that purpose.
  • God Give my Kids Incredible Future Spouses and Life Long Friends Who Love You
    We, parents, have a lot of influence on our kids lives… but we won’t always be there. Kids need great peers to help keep them focused and on track. Think back to your teenage or early adulthood regrets (or maybe late adulthood), who were the people warning you not to do that? Who were the ones egging you on? We all need people in pursuit of the same ideals as us surrounding us because if left to our own individual devices, we’ll make a mess of things. So I’m praying for my future son-in-law and daughter-in-law. I’m praying for their families and their friends. 
  • God Help my Kids Follow Jesus All the Days of Their Lives
    What Christian parent doesn’t want this for their kids? I want them to never stray from the path of Jesus. I know they’ll make mistakes, they’ll have missteps, but they don’t have to be huge and they don’t have to be overly painful. 
  • God Give my Kids Immeasurable Favor
    Have you ever felt the favor of God? I consistently prayed for God’s favor in a particular situation (another story, another future post) for over two months… everyday until God gave me favor with this particular person. And that prayer altered my entire life, forever. I want that kind of favor for my kids, their whole lives.

So there you have it, 5 Things Christian Parents Should Pray Over Their Kids Daily.

You’ve probably got your own version of this. I’m curious, what are you deepest desires for your kids? What are you praying over your kids as they sleep?

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Secrets Every Christian Parent Should Tell Their Kids Daily

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There are a few simple secrets every Christian parent should tell their kids daily. I believe it to the core of my being that parents are the strongest influence in a child’s life. There may be seasons in a child’s life that friends or mentors have a greater influence, but over the span of an entire lifetime, parents win the influence game.

When my son was about 9 months old I started telling him secrets. It was actually my son who started calling them secrets. I would whisper in his ear as I put him to bed. Sandwiched between nightly prayer and a kiss on the forehead were these simple truths, secrets, that I want to be anchored into both my kids souls so deeply that NOTHING can remove it. It want these words to be an anchor when the storm comes, when life is difficult, something they can hold onto that will keep them grounded and not rocked by the waves.

Every night, to this day, I say:

God made you
God loves you
And Jesus wants to be your friend forever
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and all your strength
Love others like your love yourself
Take care of the widows and the orphans, those who cannot take care of themselves
Act justly, love mercy and walk humbly with your God
Josiah [or Brynn] I love you
I’m proud of you
And I can’t wait to see the man [or woman] you grow up to be

That’s what I say to him every night and I’m beginning to say it to Brynn as well. Imagine the world we’d live in if we all heard those words from early childhood. How might that shape our self-perception our self-confidence or anchor our path? How might your life have been changed?

At the end of the day, they’re just words and they’ll follow the path they choose to follow, but I’m certainly going to take advantage of the fact that I’m one of the most influential people in my kid’s lives.

I bet there’s somebody who needs to read those words right now, that someone might just be you. Take a moment, replace the name with yours and read it out loud to yourself. Let yourself soak it in and know that your heavenly father says this to you:

I made you
I love you
And I want to be your best friend forever
Love me with everything you’ve got
Love others even more than you think possible
Take care of people who need someone to take care of them
Do justice, love to hand out mercy and walk without arrogance with your God
[insert your name here] I love you
I’m proud of you
And I can’t wait to see how you continue to grow for the rest of your earthly life

So there you have it.
Secrets every Christian parent should tell their kids daily.

This isn’t a complete list and I’m sure you’ve got your own versions of building up your kids. How do you do it? What do you regularly tell your kids in the hopes that it makes an eternal difference? I’d love to hear.

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